Comments on: I should be fired

By: Dossy

Dossy — Sat, 08 Apr 2006 14:22:50 +0000

The major change in my life: this weekend, I move out of the house.

Some folks have said that I’m “running away” — sometimes, that’s the only correct thing to do. Only time will tell if it was or not.

By: Darren

Darren — Sat, 08 Apr 2006 07:57:27 +0000

Whatever the problems, whether personal, work, or a combination of both, you can’t fix them all at once. If someone is an alcoholic, smokes 60 cigarettes a day, and is clinically obese, the worst thing they can do is make a dramatic decision to give up the booze, the cigs, and the chocolate at the same time.

Pick one area of your life and do something to change that, and only that. Or make one major change in your life – introduce something new and start there.

By: Shanti Braford

Shanti Braford — Thu, 06 Apr 2006 03:58:43 +0000

Maybe you just need a change of pace?

Not all companies are Weblogs Inc.

If you’re working at a company where the mgmt team just doesn’t “get it” like Jason C. and co. might, there might not be anything you can do.

At least… not without lots of hard work that goes unappreciated and doesn’t accomplish very much.

Management has to engender a culture of empowerment, or they will end up with a crew of complainers that really do have valid complaints, and are powerless to do anything about it.

By: Shawn Christopher

Shawn Christopher — Thu, 06 Apr 2006 01:36:15 +0000

As people have said…don’t get down on yourself…if you keep (or just do) focusing on it…nothing gets done. Plan to move ahead one way or another, work, home, family, ANYTHING. As we see with work…if you add 1 thing you get a new build…add one thing to your life and you get a new day a new revision.

I don’t know what’s going on with your family but if you need you can always IM or Email me…if you need anything let me know as well.

By: Kevin

Kevin — Wed, 05 Apr 2006 12:13:17 +0000

You present things negatively, and you see the worst possible outcome, but I’ve always seen a willingness to help and some hope in what you write. Yeah, you see the worst, but I don’t see you as being unwilling to jump in and fix it if you think you can (the office wiki as an example).

Stay well. I’m sorry to hear about you and your wife. If you need anything, let me know.

By: Dossy

Dossy — Wed, 05 Apr 2006 02:07:53 +0000

That’s the oddity … I’m already miserable. That’s what’s so puzzling about the situation: can running away make me even more miserable? I know things could get worse–a lot worse–but, maybe staying where I am is exactly what’ll cause that to happen.

I have the rest of this week to think about it and starting next week, I’ll effectively be homeless, so I’ll have a lot of time to think about these things and try to figure out what I need to do next.

Live, one day at a time … and make the best of what comes my way, as best I can.

By: jh

jh — Tue, 04 Apr 2006 23:18:20 +0000

The meaning of life is best summarized as Needs improvement.

Don’t get down in the “I’m a miserable failure” rut, it leads only to ruin. The road forks here. Only you can change yourself. Don’t expect anything to be perfect. Perfection is boring. It’s our flaws that make the world interesting. Were it not for flaws in our selves and the world around us, there would be no inspiration to strive for something greater.

You’ve realized you have a problem. You’re the only one that can change yourself. Perhaps your problem is as simple as a misconeived concept of success? What is a good father? What is a good husband? Is there some universal objective definition of either?

The worst thing you can do is run away… from your family, from your friends, from your job. I’ve known far too many middle-aged men that felt a rift in their marriage, divorced, and are now miserable, hollow men. Oh sure, they may have a decent job, have plenty of disposable income, drive a nice, fast and shiny car, but in the end, they’re miserable.